The Logic of Psyche, i.e., psyche logic, is crazy, weird; not that it is devoid of logic, but that she has her own way of seeing the world, which makes sense, when you see where she is coming from….
Psyche is a character in Greek mythology, though every culture is going to have some representation of this character, because she, as the embodiment of Love, is so basic and fundamental to human love relationship situations. Psyche is, in the end of the myth, betrothed to her beloved, Eros, aka, Cupid. Cupid has his own archetype to play and, again, every culture will have a representation of ‘Desire.’ Love and Desire. Do those two experiences in our lives not greatly define us, both individually, and collectively?
Psyche is a Greek word. It translates into English as ‘breath.’ It is more commonly understand as soul, or mind. Breath is a more poignant understanding of Psyche. Who has not had their breath taken away by love, and desire? Who has not found their breathing difficult when love is taken away? Our desires, in particular the desire for the beloved, ride on the waves of breath. Without breath, there is no life, no pulsing desire, no romantic love. Because breathing is both an automatic deeply subconscious life process, and because it is a life process which can be consciously and intentionally regulated, intentional conscious breathing is one of the most basic and important methods of soothing and calming Psyche, especially when in the throws of carnal desire and emotional love.
Psyche, however, is inherently troubled, disturbed, irritated, because she is separated from her beloved. Our desire for love, and to be loved, drives us all. Her eventual union with her beloved is representational, symbolic, of the dissolution of separation. The experience of separation is psychological. The body does not experience separation. Like an animal in the wild that may have lost a limb, life goes on, without depression, anxiety, resentment, fear, trauma. Psyche gives meaning, valence, value to the experience of separation. Depending on the interpretation, separation can be agony, or ecstasy. Separation from our beloved is agony. Separation from our nemesis is ecstasy.
Although Psyche and her beloved do unite at the end of the myth, Psyche goes through a lot of tests, challenges, trials and tribulations, which are representative of the purification necessary for a genuine, authentic union with the beloved. Ultimately, the beloved is the same flame, the same essence, the same substance, the same animating energy, the same consciousness, as is she. When this is realized, the pangs of longing, the veils of separation, vanish.
And yet, our attachment to the yearning, the wanting, the desire, to love and be loved, is intensely powerful. This yearning of Psyche is well stated in a popular rock ‘n roll song, ‘Dream Lover.’
Every night I hope and pray
A dream lover will come my way
A girl to hold in my arms
And know the magic of her charms
Because all men are born of women, they too are impressed upon by the nature of Psyche; they too seek their beloved, above all else, just as does she. Psyche is, as the breath of Love, feminine. Eros is, as the arrow of Desire, masculine. Of course both men and women in the world are inhabited by both Psyche and Eros, Love and Desire. Any one person contains both love and desire, feminine and masculine, drives, needs and wants.
The logic behind our world view, as a psyche-social creature, has a lot to do with finding, holding, having, and keeping, our beloved. We have psyche-logical equations such that not being in a relationship, not being with somebody who represents our beloved, means we are defective. What is life worth, without our beloved? If I can’t be with my beloved, I might as well kill myself. If not that extreme, then deep depression. The beloved is not necessarily a person. Some are so absorbed in their ‘work’ it becomes the beloved, sometimes referred to as a mistress, some activity, or some other person, who takes most of the positive attention, energy, interest and engagement. People have, in fact, killed themselves over loss of money, their beloved, at the time. Most every single psyche-social disturbance, irritation, dysfunction can be tied to this fundamental pain of separation from our beloved. When united with our beloved, nothing can bother us, irritate us, disturb us.
The remedy to this experience of separation from our beloved is union with our beloved. What prevents that from happening? The term is ‘obscuration.’ That is, it is as if our beloved is hiding, not seen, though present, and available. The obscurations must be removed. The process is one of purification and represented by the trials and tribulations suffered through by Psyche. The process of purification, and healing, can be hellish, or like lost in a hall of mirrors, or alone at the top of a hill. The reward is portrayed, by those who have traversed the trails, as worth it. Union. Ecstasy. Given that our significant other is likely not our beloved in truth, they can be a representation and treated with as much love as if the real thing. When in love with that person who represents our beloved, we are at ease and in comfort with our existence. There can be a dissolving away of separation and two can feel as one; but then, those two, as a couple, are still separate from others, the neighbors, the colleagues, the passing strangers, and so the pangs of separation remain. Moreover, should there be some spat or argument, a conflict, or if that union is threatened, then that ease and comfort rapidly vanishes replaced with high anxieties and depression. Our true beloved is not of this world, beyond duality. Such a transcendental union is permanent, perpetual, without end, and we find ourselves dissolved into blissfulness.
For more information on this this approach of non-duality read a companion post about The Advaita Approach to Mental Health
About Emetophobia
/0 Comments/in Practical /by Ken FieldsI was recently alerted to the fact that emetophobia, the fear of vomiting, is the fifth most common phobia in America. Phobia, as a general category, is the most common disorder in America. There are lots and lots of phobias, hundreds and hundreds of them. Whatever conceivable behavior, emotion, situation, circumstance or event you can imagine, there is a fear about it. Don’t believe me? Take a look at the list of phobias.
Phobia is the old word for “fear.” But then, what is fear? A one-syllable word that represents a complex host of intense feelings and emotions…mental images and internal dialogues. Shakespeare’s Hamlet said it best when he uttered “there is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” Fear is beyond bad, it’s the worst. And yet, that which we fear is made so by our thinking. At its extreme, fear is terror, a well-known concept in the political world today. At its best, fear is a moderate anxiety. Hundreds of millions of people experience anxieties and fears, and terrors. Some people are terrified of driving, others are deathly afraid of spiders. Social anxiety is a very common disorder as is the anxiety that comes from simply going to the dentist. We can be afraid of strangers, or of germs. There is even a fear of fear, which is actually called “phobophobia.”
Emetophobia is not just the fear of vomiting, which, though unpleasant, is not, in and of itself, anything to be afraid of – rationally. It’s actually a signal that the body is working correctly by ridding itself of toxin, poison or foreign material. Emetophobia, more generally, and symbolically, is the fear of throwing up, and out, stuff from the inside. Although we tend to think in terms of stomach contents, it could also refer to emotional content. Emetophobia, the fear of vomiting, can also be related to the fear of intensely emoting, of fully discharging, vomiting if you will, anger, rage, pain or sorrow; emetophobia, in addition to the fear of vomiting, can also be a fear of the cathartic wailing that can accompany intense emotional discharge, which is called ’emotophobia’ – as distinct from emetophobia.
Vomiting is generally preceded by feelings of nausea and just that alone can trigger a phobic response which then spirals out of control creating a debilitating terror of a physiological process that is though terribly uncomfortable, not in itself debilitating, or harmful, if done “properly.” The proper way to vomit is to let go and let it happen. The body knows what it needs to do and our thoughts about it often just get in the way. Attempts to not vomit only make the anxiety and discomfort more extreme and add to the fear. The intense, severe wrenching, heaving, spasms that accompany vomiting, is a purely cathartic, bodily response. If a person can adopt an attitude of trusting their body to do what it needs to do, the vomiting is completed without undue anxiety or fear.
In addition to the phobic response to nausea, and vomiting itself, there are additional thought patterns that are often attached. It’s not uncommon for people to view vomiting as meaning something is wrong with them, and the corresponding thoughts about that, when in fact, it may mean that something is right. As stated, vomiting is the body’s natural process to ridding itself of poisons, toxins or foreign material. There are times when it is actually advised to induce vomiting to help expel what has been ingested. Despite that intellectual understanding, fear of nausea and vomiting may persist for other reasons.
There are also issues of “control” about vomiting. With the exception of self-induced vomiting, it is something that is out of our control; it happens to us. Granted, we may have eaten bad food…. but, still, the nausea and vomiting come upon us unbid, even if it is to expel rotten food. We feel out of control, and that in itself can often cause high anxiety and panic attack, which can then lead to a phobic response. We may be less frightened of the actual vomiting than we are of being out of control.
The irony is that by letting go and letting it happen, one gains control. By choosing to stop fighting it and, so to speak, go with the flow, one takes command of the situation. By trying to control the situation, one is out of control because it cannot be controlled and the anxiety and panic only increases to phobic and debilitating levels.
Emetophobia may be an irrational fear, but it is nonetheless a palpable one and can, like any phobia, overrun one’s life. As Franklin Delano Roosevelt so astutely pointed out, “the only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” It’s not just the vomiting itself that we fear; we fear the fear of vomiting for it is that fear which translates a natural organic, albeit a very strenuous, process into a hideous monster to be frightened about.
Some of the common interventions for emetophobia are Cognitive Behavior Therapy, Systematic Desensitization, Exposure, Hypnotherapy and Neurolinguistic Programming. You can obtain more information, and support, at the International Emetophobia Society.
The Realms of Nature
/0 Comments/in Philsophical /by Ken FieldsA realm is like a kingdom; it is a territory, a domain, a region, an area; it has limitations, boundaries, walls. Nature is defined as ‘the phenomena of the physical world collectively, as opposed to singularly humans or human creations’ and ‘the basic or inherent features of something, especially when seen as characteristic of it.’ There are characteristics of the phenomenal physical world that humans don’t experience, for example, the full spectrum of light radiation. The realms of nature are like that; there is a lot we don’t see. As William Shakespeare noted, ‘there is more contained in heaven and earth, Horatio, than in your philosophy.‘
The kingdoms of nature is a relatively accepted term; there is general consensus that the plant kingdom is different than the animal kingdom. The animal realm is different than the mineral realm. One of the feature characteristics of Nature is animation. Plants are animated. Humans are animated. Different realms, and different time frames. Minerals are animated; and one full human lifetime, from birth to death after a long life, is a nanosecond in the Mineral Realm.
As humans, we can experience realms ‘below’ us; we experience, i.e., see, hear, touch, plants and animals, and minerals, rocks and soil. As humans, we are made up of elements from these other realms of nature, plants and animals in particular, and yet minerals play a huge role in our well-being. So, let us postulate, lay out, this concept of 4 Realms of Nature: Mineral, Plant, Animal, Human.
One of the distinguishing characteristics that differentiates these realms is time-frame in relation to animation. Animals are animated. Humans are animated at a ‘higher’ level. Humans have an active animated Psyche. Plants are animated at a ‘lower’ level. We can see animals move; they can see us move. Plants move. Even when rooted. Minerals are animated if even humans don’t detect it. This feature of animation, or movement, exists within various time-frames, or what we might call ‘life-times.’ A modern person today will be animated, in the human realm, for about 8 or 9+ decades. Some animals are animated over a period of decades, some less; some insects in a matter of days. Trees range in life-time from a few hundred years to a few thousand years, and there are minerals, living atomic animation, still ‘alive’ from ages ago.
This animation is not chaotic; there is structure and order such that people send people to the moon, and back. That is not possible without precise, structured, motion. It couldn’t happen if Nature is chaotic. The very complex processes that make up your physical body are not based on chaos. Psyche often appears chaotic, unorganized, emotional, and cognitive. The word ‘psyche’ is from Latin and Greek origins and literally translates into English as ‘breath.’ Current interpretations leans more towards ‘mind.’ There is a definite, intimate, relationship between mind and breath, the former being dependent upon the later. Modern calming techniques almost always include some form of conscious breathing exercises, to help relax and soothe Psyche, ease the Mind.
Humans stand apart as a separate realm from animals because of the significantly higher animation, both physio-logically and psyche-logically. I refer to the human realm as the high animated realm, and the traditional animal kingdom as the low animated realm. Human becomes Hianim. Animals become Loanim. The Hianim Realm is 4. The Loanim Realm is 3. The Realms of Nature are structured. Cosmic structure is number based, and yet there are only 9 single digit numbers(each with a particular geometric shape,such as a triangle, square, pentagon or nanogon), and the collection of those 9 together (0).7 is a significant number in the esoteric teachings of Higher Nature. There are ‘7 days of creation’ in the Judeo-Christian theology, and 7 days of the week in our calendar system. There are ‘7 chakras’ in the subtle body, according to Yoga science. There are 7 colors of the rainbow and in music 7 notes of the diatonic scale. Snow White had 7 dwarfs.
Other Realms of Nature exist. Hianims can be, and have been, viewed as the bridge between the lower three realms, the Loplex, and the higher three realms, the Hiplex. What realms exist ‘above’ Hianims? There are 3, just as there are 3 below. The loplex appears as objective, external; the hiplex appears as subjective, internal. We can see minerals, plants and animals, and fellow humans; we typically do not see the Etherial Real, the Angelic Realm, and the Celestial Realm. And yet, all exist within the sphere of existence we call Nature. The experience of ‘myself’ as an individual entity is a psychological fabrication; using the elements of these realms of nature, consciousness formulates an identity, and becomes attached to it, which is one of the most fundamental dynamics of suffering. We are so much more than our psychological identity. We are, essentially, Nature.
The Realms of Nature
There is a mirror-like correspondence between the outer, objective realms and the inner subjective realms. The etherial realm corresponds to the loanim realm, the angelic realm corresponds to the plant realm and the celestial realm corresponds to the mineral realm. Each realm is in itself a complex interwoven tapestry of Life, not to mention the vast ecological interplay and interaction of the realms with each other. Just as hinams are dependent upon minerals, plants and animals, so too is there a dependence upon etherials, angels and celestials. If there is one word that can convey the interplay of Nature, it would be Ecology. As mentioned above, the hianim realm is the bridge, or perhaps better phrased, the funnel, through which Mind Consciousness traverses the Realms of Nature from the loplex into and through the hiplex to the boundless beyond.
The Upside of Anxiety
/0 Comments/in Practical /by Ken FieldsAnxiety isn’t all bad; there is an upside to anxiety. Anxiety can be viewed to have a functional use. It is not arising out of nothing for no purpose. Anxiety is a kind of low-grade fear; an apprehension. It is a form of caution. It is an awareness of possible threat, of potential danger. This wariness of our environment goes way back and may, in fact, be at least in part, responsible for our survival. The issue with anxiety is not so much about having it as it is about having it in a particular context, a specific setting, a time and a place. In some settings, anxiety would be a sign of natural intelligence; in other settings a symptom of cognitive distortions.
Cognitive distortions are those faulty chains of logic from which we build meanings about our experience. For example, if you were to see a coiled up rope but view it as a snake, you would be anxious, maybe even in panic. If in fact, it were a snake, the anxiety would be intelligent because historically, some snakes are a threat to health and well-being, they are dangerous. But, some snakes are not. One form of cognitive distortion is called ‘overgeneralization’ in which all snakes are interpreted as being dangerous. Another cognitive distortion is ‘illusion’ in which the perception is mis-interpreted, ie, we give it a false meaning. To see the coiled up rope as a snake is an illusion. A mis-interpretation of raw sensory data. But, the mind responds to the interpretation of sensory data, not the sensations themselves.
Anxiety arises from a perceived threat. That interpretation of that perception may be accurate, or it may be inaccurate. That perceived threat, whether factual or fabricated, may also depend upon context, ie, place, time, situation. Anxiety may arise when with certain people, but not with others, at certain places, but not at others. Anxiety becomes panic when this perceived threat is accompanied by further cognitive distortions of extreme danger such as ‘I’m going to die’ or ‘I’m going to fail.’ Of course, ‘dying’ and ‘failing’ must be associated with meanings which are extra-ordinarily frightful. So, a person who finds themselves in a situation which is perceived to be a significant threat, is rightly going to feel anxious. That anxiety is generally dissipated from the action which ensues from a threat, often fight or flight. But, if there is nothing to fight, and nowhere to run, that psychological, and biological, energy we call ‘anxiety’ tends to remain and run in circles.
Anxiety needs to be approached as having a functional role in our lives. We need to be wary, a bit cautious, somewhat skeptical. Interestingly, the phrase ‘be aware’ is just about identical to ‘beware.’ If we can be aware, and a bit beware, our critical thinking is employed and we make distinctions between factual and fabricated threats or dangers. We can begin to see that some of our anxieties are arising from memories, or imaginations, which are not realistic; some are far-fetched and outlandish, some are projections of our own subconscious insecurities and totally unfounded beliefs. We can become frightened of just about anything or anybody. We can become paranoid. Or, we can look at the object of our anxieties and question it, seek evidence of its validity, factuality or accuracy. Going way back, this was a rather spontaneous survival instinct. But, in today’s world of mass advertising, industrialized education and a proclivity towards emotionalism, there can be dozens of perceived threats to our sense of self, including our often overly conditioned beliefs, imprinted upon us from a very early age, by a culture and society in which conflict is all too common.
Certainly, conflict can be anxiety producing. But, it doesn’t have to be. Conflict need not be viewed as a threat or a dangerous situation, though it certainly can be. A person who knows how to interact well with conflict will be far less anxious about it than somebody who believes it is the worst thing in the world. But, what if there is no real conflict? What if the conflict is a fabrication of the mind? What if the threat or danger doesn’t really exist? There is no snake, its just a rope. Then, there would be no functional purpose of the anxiety, and there would be no anxiety.
If you are having experiences of anxiety, it is in your interest to examine the validity, accuracy and evidence of exactly how you are interpreting your experience, either within your environment, or within your mind. Are these experiences, which are being interpreted as dangerous, whether objective or subjective, a genuine, authentic threat? Once the factuality is determined, appropriate action can be taken, and then the anxiety will subside. Or, perhaps it will be discovered that there is no real threat, there is no real danger, and there is, then, no anxiety.
Look around. Look inside. Is there a real and immediate threat or danger? If so, do something about it. The anxiety is there to prompt you towards action which will increase your safety, and thereby free you from the anxiety. If there is no real or immediate threat or danger, the anxiety is based on illusion, and you can choose to dis-illusion yourself, and be freed from your anxiety.
for additional posts about anxiety, view A Philosophical Antidote for Anxiety and Dialing Down Anxiety
The Trouble With The World Is…
/0 Comments/in Philsophical /by Ken FieldsBertrand Russell is a British philosopher, logician, mathematician, historian, writer, social critic, political activist and Nobel laureate. He is noted to have said: The trouble with the world is that the stupid are cocksure and the intelligent are full of doubt. A similar sentiment is his statement: The whole problem with the world is that fools and fanatics are always so certain of themselves, but wiser people so full of doubts.
You’d think the trouble with the world might be that the intelligent are cocksure and the stupid full of doubt. That’s because we may think of intelligence as boisterous, belligerent, aggressive, even violent. Doubt is uncertainty, unsuredness, indecisive and questioning. What is intelligence? What is not intelligence? What is stupidity? Although there may be some value in being cocksure, at certain times, there are several disadvantages as a general way of interacting with life. Life itself is uncertain. To be so certain, so cocksure, can often be a way of becoming misaligned with life. To be misaligned with life is to experience dis-ease and dis-comfort. Dis-ease and dis-comfort, or, rather, the absence of such, can be an indicator of intelligence. Dis-ease and dis-comfort are symptoms of stupidity. Ease and comfort are symptoms of intelligence.
Intelligence is, of course, far more than a score on a test. It is the innate, inborn capacity to respond. Every single living creature is capable of response, and does so based on its native intelligence. That native intelligence within every single living creature interacts with its environment. Humans are no different in housing native intelligence; humans are different in their capacity to choose between intelligence and stupidity, to be misaligned with life, or not. The trouble with the world today is the stupid are misaligned with life, and the intelligent don’t know what to do.
Intelligence is rooted in the Greek word Teleos which translates as ‘complete’ and ‘result.’ Teleos is future orientation. Teleos is about the ultimate destination.All living creatures have Teleos. They are future oriented, by nature, by design. Every seed contains within it all the plant will become, given the appropriate environment. It is that spark which allows the species to continue on and on and on, given the proper environmental stage. The same teleos operates within every individual, guiding it, prompting it, nudging it along a course towards the future, and its ultimate destination. When aligned with Teleos, disease and discomfort are foreign. When misaligned with Teleos, stupidity reigns.
Stupidity is not fun; it is not pleasure or enjoyment or satisfaction. It is ripe with conflict, chaos, confusion and yet not without its own brand of cunning. The trouble with the world is too many are too often too cunning for personal, short-sighted objectives, and too few are aligned with Teleos for collective, long-term objectives. What is long term? Inherent in the species is a biological clock, which dates back millions of years. Every particle of our existence, biological, geological, social, is very old; the stuff that makes us what we are has been around a long, long, very long time. It will continue on and on and on assuming various forms and manifestations of Life, and of Teleos. Don’t be stupid; be intelligent; tune in to your own innate Teleos.
“Intelligence is what you use when you don’t know what to do: when neither innateness nor learning has prepared you for the particular situation.”– Jean Piaget
A Bit About Psyche Logic
/0 Comments/in Philsophical /by Ken FieldsThe Logic of Psyche, i.e., psyche logic, is crazy, weird; not that it is devoid of logic, but that she has her own way of seeing the world, which makes sense, when you see where she is coming from….
Psyche is a character in Greek mythology, though every culture is going to have some representation of this character, because she, as the embodiment of Love, is so basic and fundamental to human love relationship situations. Psyche is, in the end of the myth, betrothed to her beloved, Eros, aka, Cupid. Cupid has his own archetype to play and, again, every culture will have a representation of ‘Desire.’ Love and Desire. Do those two experiences in our lives not greatly define us, both individually, and collectively?
Psyche is a Greek word. It translates into English as ‘breath.’ It is more commonly understand as soul, or mind. Breath is a more poignant understanding of Psyche. Who has not had their breath taken away by love, and desire? Who has not found their breathing difficult when love is taken away? Our desires, in particular the desire for the beloved, ride on the waves of breath. Without breath, there is no life, no pulsing desire, no romantic love. Because breathing is both an automatic deeply subconscious life process, and because it is a life process which can be consciously and intentionally regulated, intentional conscious breathing is one of the most basic and important methods of soothing and calming Psyche, especially when in the throws of carnal desire and emotional love.
Psyche, however, is inherently troubled, disturbed, irritated, because she is separated from her beloved. Our desire for love, and to be loved, drives us all. Her eventual union with her beloved is representational, symbolic, of the dissolution of separation. The experience of separation is psychological. The body does not experience separation. Like an animal in the wild that may have lost a limb, life goes on, without depression, anxiety, resentment, fear, trauma. Psyche gives meaning, valence, value to the experience of separation. Depending on the interpretation, separation can be agony, or ecstasy. Separation from our beloved is agony. Separation from our nemesis is ecstasy.
Although Psyche and her beloved do unite at the end of the myth, Psyche goes through a lot of tests, challenges, trials and tribulations, which are representative of the purification necessary for a genuine, authentic union with the beloved. Ultimately, the beloved is the same flame, the same essence, the same substance, the same animating energy, the same consciousness, as is she. When this is realized, the pangs of longing, the veils of separation, vanish.
And yet, our attachment to the yearning, the wanting, the desire, to love and be loved, is intensely powerful. This yearning of Psyche is well stated in a popular rock ‘n roll song, ‘Dream Lover.’
Every night I hope and pray
A dream lover will come my way
A girl to hold in my arms
And know the magic of her charms
Because all men are born of women, they too are impressed upon by the nature of Psyche; they too seek their beloved, above all else, just as does she. Psyche is, as the breath of Love, feminine. Eros is, as the arrow of Desire, masculine. Of course both men and women in the world are inhabited by both Psyche and Eros, Love and Desire. Any one person contains both love and desire, feminine and masculine, drives, needs and wants.
The logic behind our world view, as a psyche-social creature, has a lot to do with finding, holding, having, and keeping, our beloved. We have psyche-logical equations such that not being in a relationship, not being with somebody who represents our beloved, means we are defective. What is life worth, without our beloved? If I can’t be with my beloved, I might as well kill myself. If not that extreme, then deep depression. The beloved is not necessarily a person. Some are so absorbed in their ‘work’ it becomes the beloved, sometimes referred to as a mistress, some activity, or some other person, who takes most of the positive attention, energy, interest and engagement. People have, in fact, killed themselves over loss of money, their beloved, at the time. Most every single psyche-social disturbance, irritation, dysfunction can be tied to this fundamental pain of separation from our beloved. When united with our beloved, nothing can bother us, irritate us, disturb us.
The remedy to this experience of separation from our beloved is union with our beloved. What prevents that from happening? The term is ‘obscuration.’ That is, it is as if our beloved is hiding, not seen, though present, and available. The obscurations must be removed. The process is one of purification and represented by the trials and tribulations suffered through by Psyche. The process of purification, and healing, can be hellish, or like lost in a hall of mirrors, or alone at the top of a hill. The reward is portrayed, by those who have traversed the trails, as worth it. Union. Ecstasy. Given that our significant other is likely not our beloved in truth, they can be a representation and treated with as much love as if the real thing. When in love with that person who represents our beloved, we are at ease and in comfort with our existence. There can be a dissolving away of separation and two can feel as one; but then, those two, as a couple, are still separate from others, the neighbors, the colleagues, the passing strangers, and so the pangs of separation remain. Moreover, should there be some spat or argument, a conflict, or if that union is threatened, then that ease and comfort rapidly vanishes replaced with high anxieties and depression. Our true beloved is not of this world, beyond duality. Such a transcendental union is permanent, perpetual, without end, and we find ourselves dissolved into blissfulness.
For more information on this this approach of non-duality read a companion post about The Advaita Approach to Mental Health