recovering from grief and loss

Recovering from loss and grief is a process

There are many forms of loss. We can lose somebody close to us, a spouse, a family member, a friend, a lover, even a pet. We can lose material objects. We can lose psychological elements such as respect, for others, or for ourselves. We can lose a belief and we can even lose a sense of identity. We can lose a lifestyle. And, the ultimate loss, our own life, which is, of course, inevitable. There are so many losses throughout the lifespan, both minor and major, that it can become an existential and philosophical issue and bring up questions about the meaning of life.

Regardless of what loss we may suffer, and the grief we must necessarily experience, it can be important to understand some of the stages we may pass through in the process of recovering from grief and loss. The most noted authority on the stages of loss is Elizabeth Kuber-Ross who has  researched and written extensively on the subject. Her book, On Death and Dying, is a classic in the field. According to her model, there are 5 stages of Loss: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance. There is no time line for these stages, and they are not necessarily linear. One can find themselves fluctuating between denial and anger, or depression and bargaining. Depending on the severity and intensity of our loss, we may pass through these stages relatively quickly; but, it can also take many months, to years. But, it is important to recognize that there is life after loss. In fact, because loss is such a pervasive and inherent aspect of our life in this world, and that nobody is immune, it can be, and often is, a cataylst for the development of our own compassion.

If you have experienced significant loss in your life, and have not had the opportunity to talk about it, to share your experience, to process the feelings, online and telephone counseling can be quite helpful. From the comfort and privacy of your own home, you can talk to a professional and remain rather anonymous, which is considered one of the unique, and attractive, features of online or telephone counseling. You can contact us via the contact form below; or, you can use the telephone counseling option and give us a call. We are even available for video webcam counseling services.


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